really started to get good, and could escalate with any woman very quickly, I think about all the women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is a bit sad.

There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.

But I had my head up my ass.

…maybe that's a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Yes, I like video games and comic books.

But…

Do you believe girls have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?

It's all relative.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

If you don't accept yourself, women won't accept you also.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.

Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

In my experience, almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely.

And I'm not excepted from them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.

The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.

Because that's you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.

Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward." I don't agree. That's not you.

That is the distorted you.

That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.

Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn't keep girls around after sleeping with them.

I'm not conscious about shaping.

Shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. You can't shape if you don't know what you want. The extension of self-acceptance is knowing what you want.

In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.

Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so.

We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.

I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.